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orchid_shadow5
14 August 2010 @ 05:39 pm
The difference between a confident and a shy person can be seen in their body language. If 95% of all communication is done non-verbally, then giving off the right signals is essential. Experts in confidence understand the importance of giving the right signals to people. An air of confidence can make or break an important business negotiation, attract a date or attract others to you.
You see, confident people tend to win peoples trust. Confident people tend to get the breaks in life because it makes people think, "Hang on a minute there is something about them." Having that ' something' about you is an extremely desirable quality to have, and yet it is also far simpler to attain than people realise.

The thing about confidence that people do not realise is that to be confident is the same as being confidence. In other words, rather than being something elusive, the trick to being confident is to act confident. Even if you are privately dealing with insecurities, you can still appear confident - Think of this in the same way somebody with a weak hand bluffs during poker or the way an actor appears on stage. The more you act in a particular way the more you become the act.
The difference between people who are confident and those who are shy are their habits. The more empowering habits you have , the better your life is going to be. Becoming confident is therefore a matter of gaining the right habits, the right thinking and the right approach towards communicating with others. Prepare to become excited as you witness the transformation in yourself as you become more confident in your own abilities.

The mind and the body work as one together, influencing one another to the extent that they become a single entity. You can communicate confidence from thinking confidently. The more you practice confidence by reliving confident experiences in your mind the more your physiology will naturally exhibit confident expressions. Alternatively, the more your physically exude confidence results in more confident thinking. The mind can never be separated from the body, so remember that at all times.

So, to gain extra confidence consider thinking about the following: First of all, consider how a confident person walks and moves. How would their body posture be different? What kind of things would they be thinking? How would they speak to other people? Once you have answered these questions you have successfully built up the image of the 'ideal type.' An ideal type means exactly what it suggests; namely, a perfect construction of a particular subject or theme. Take your ideal confident type and now assume its identity by imagining yourself in possession of its characteristics again and again.

There are some body language signals you should be looking to avoid should you wish to exude confidence. For example, avoid giving of weak, wimpy looking gestures. This means avoid any behaviour that suggests you are not in control this includes submissive gestures such as avoiding eye contact, slouching and hanging your head. But you should also avoid angry and panicky looking behaviour, for anger can be taken as a sign that the situation is out of control. You should be adopting a cool, composed and calm demeanour especially in stressful situations. Remember that confident people tend to be chosen as leaders. Since you want the characteristics of a confident person, you want the characteristics of a leader.

You should avoid giving off any signals that suggest you are blaming others for something going wrong. Fully confident people never indulge in acts such as finger pointing and other angry gestures. Confident people look for solutions to problems. They remain cool, calm and collected to events and the world around them. Remember, confidence is a form of strength which is why it is so attractive to people. The negative kinds of behaviour we just discussed will give impression that you do not believe in yourself. Imagine you are going for a job interview knowing that you need to sell yourself to your potential employer. It does not take a genius to work out that you can't expect people to believe in you as an 'investment' if the investment does not believe in itself

By acting confident you will become more confident it is as simple as that.
To you added confidence
Andy



286 Turkey Road, Bexhill, East Sussex TN395HY, UNITED KINGDOM
 
 
orchid_shadow5
14 August 2010 @ 05:38 pm
What cheers you up the most when life gets you down?
brains!
 
 
orchid_shadow5
02 January 2010 @ 09:34 am
wow, it's been a while since i've written. I've been getting settled in with my new job supplies, mountains of em, and making way for a new computer/fax, printer> i'm trying to figure out what I will do about TWO yes two, Iphones. there could be worse things to think about. :) I was very lucky and had some help, first by the homeless guy walking past, what a sweetie! And then Amber, Stephanie and the man and the kids were here. Tara came over and we busted what was a whole van load of stuff into my big ass closets, labeled nicely. It feels really good to be able to accommodate car stock, and organize it somewhat without extra storage.

i've been trying to get used to the amount of noise EVERYWHERE. i've been wearing my headphones as earplugs. I enjoyed the silence, every minute of it, and can't wait to carry on with it regularly. I guess that means i'm not so suited for "city" life afterall. I spoke with my friend who lives in Minnesota, and he really wants me to come visit. I could probably be his nanny and perhaps start up a nice health care clinic. California, I love you, but i'm not going to die here unless of course, this place kills me, which might very well be the case sometime.

I met some awesome women from my neighborhood while I was away. I love how getting away, far away, can bring you closer to the people you are supposed to meet, near you. It warms my spirit to make these kinds of connections. And I don't disbelieve it any more. I rarely say it's "too good to be true" It is both good and true.

The time of year when everyone else celebrates the new year is so funny. I find myself tugged between solstice, chinese new year and persian new year. January 1 is my deceased brother's bday, so it's never really been that big of a thing for me, these past years June 25 marks the anniversary of his death, and I think it's 3 years now.

I meditated the new year in, which was a fabulous exercise for me, and also went to see avatar, which i'm quite sure has deeply imbedded social messages for the era we are really entering into that we can occasionally get glimpses of if we are quiet and intune enough.
 
 
orchid_shadow5
13 December 2009 @ 01:37 pm
I had to stop by the store to pick up a few essentials, really I just needed condoms.

I was slightly overwhelmed and deterred by the amount of christmas themed candies in the store, no mind to the parking situation or the rain, the condoms no where to be found, it was the candy in all colours that threw me off.

I picked up what I needed and found myself tempted by the dove dark chocolate. Interesting enough, I think it's evident my mind was set on outcome.


Dove also happens to have a new peppermint bark with tips from martha stewart. I'm kind of a chocolate fanatic, I like it as raw, fair trade and dark as possible, but in a pinch, this will do. Anyhow i'm remarkable pleased with the taste of doves peppermint bark and easily amused by martha's holiday tips on the inside. The woman at the counter was humming silent night while I asked whether or not there was a bathroom for customers, she didn't hesitate to say no and get back to humming. I opened up the bag of candy and gave her a few. She was delighted. I probably wouldn't have given her christmas candy if she hadn't been humming christmas tunes.

In living in harmony with the seasons and taking into account the shifts happening on a global level, even the way we decorate our christmas tree can have an impact into how we treat the holidays, and how the holidays treat us. For the past few years being grief stricken I couldnt bring myself to be remotely interested in the holiday spirit and though this year is similar, I selected ornaments on the premise of what the colour represented. So instead of overdoing everything with red, a very Yang colour, I am using very classic and traditional tones of gold and silver, celebrating and cherishing all that shimmers, and withstands.

I attended a lecture yesterday about diet, body, mind, and community tips to stay well during the winter. We did a few exercises for the lungs and the kidneys. I feel warm just thinking about it. I am honored to take part in the collective responsibility of ours to adapt to our ever changing and expanding circumstances and take charge to empower ourselves to keep moving forward with that transformational momentum. My favorite suggestion about the season was communicating our values with our community. The question came up that "everyone is so stressed about money" and as wise and calm as could be represented, the answer responded for itself so simplistic. "offer a minimal holiday this year if everyone is stressed equally."


everything and nothing. gold and silver and white and red. and green. and sex. and chocolate.
 
 
 
orchid_shadow5
Finally my moon arrives! I have wondered about whether or not i've been blood deficient or stagnant. No cramps, and relatively little PMS> Funny, the minute my menses arrived everything fell into place! I have been relaxing more into the idea of being content, instead of always trying so hard to make things happen. Luckily, I feel this steadily improving.

I think it may have something to do with recently meeting the qigong master. His energy infused disc has done wonders for my household, my body, and my life.

http://www.yinyanghouse.com/theory/chinese/blood_theory_and_disharmonies
 
 
orchid_shadow5
09 November 2009 @ 11:18 pm
I'm so happy to meet my new friend Kalina, someone who I recently went to a vampire ball with. It was so much fun! Ballroom dancing is so formal and so fun. Really interesting observation was i wasnt really all that down with the people who were donning this accent and personality, i told Kalina I spend so much time learning to express my authenticity, I was surprised by others who took so much pride in being someone else. A hilarious insight for a vampire in a sari!

I also had a wonderful conversation with a girlfriend...to keep her in the present I asked her about "what it would feel like when you arrived."

I dont know that ill ever forget my rainyday connundrum. Funny and karmic circumstances like attending a talk (which happened to be one of the reasons i was fired, for scheduling and marketing not too their liking) at the marketplace. My good friend was scheduled and then a half hour before she called and asked me to talk until she got there because she was running late!!!
1. Awkward!
2. How did I get myself into this
3. Okay universe!?
4. It's okay to say no too!

2 people showed up! ( great marketing wizards!) and I knew them. I have to say it makes me feel really good to see them, in their glory, sucking. The discussion was wonderful anyhow.

Loving the potency of this time and the importance of being present in the continuousness!
 
 
orchid_shadow5
08 September 2009 @ 08:09 pm
I haven't hosted anything in a really long time. I don't know what happened to me...I used to enjoy having others over. I think it might have to do with me becoming more of an introvert. Regardless, to appreciate the season, what's left of it anyway I am forcing myself to have some friends over.

Funny thing is 1. I don't care if no one shows up. I've already got another plan. 2. this used to be a big deal to me. I would lose sleep over whether anyone would show up, and now, I'm almost preferring that be the case, so I can say at least I tried. 3. Themes don't always work out. I thought it would be cool to celebrate the turning of the calendar. For some reason I would hope that and wish that I had friends that were remotely interested in numerology and manifesting collectively. 4. I created an evite which I sent out to friends and posted on facebook. Largely more people responded that they would not be attending. Hostesses, at what point do you cancel an event?

Another funny thing is, I should be out getting supplies, and instead i'm here sharing about my "process". I read somewhere recently that usually those talking about stuff don't "DO" anything. In order to act, one must "stop talking about it, and just do something."

I have been compiling recipes. I have been contemplating appetizing bits, I have been planning for a party of me +1 or 2.


I've also been wondering if it's too late to bail out.
 
 
orchid_shadow5
21 July 2009 @ 07:21 pm
are you feeling the intensity of these times? The mayan calender is closing a 13 year cycle! Essentially we are in the portal of our successes and experiences of that time, reviving one that putt-putt-putt before pummeling into our new selves and birthing into our most awesomest, perfect potentials.

Okay, back to me, and this. Pretty cool ay?


I was in a fender bender this morning after leaving freda's house. She's doing okay...and in excruciating pain. poor thing. I can't imagine what it would be like to face some of the decisions she's facing right now. trippy shit.

I had a chance to visit with my doctor and run by him a lot of stuff going on with me right now. He put me on a diet. big surprise! and it's something I feel compelled to do anyhow, so i'm thrilled.


I just wanted to give a shout out to you all,
I know times are changin' and that means God knows what.

I read somewhere today that being in a state of "i don't know" is actually a pretty positive thing and I agree. wholeheartedly. you?
 
 
orchid_shadow5
08 July 2009 @ 10:47 am
I'm getting ready for bed and a big trip.  I'm leaving for about a week and heading to the desert as a celebration and an honoring of my recent birthday and this new phase of my life. 

I don't know if I will be on the computer much or have a phone signal.  I kinda hope I don't.  I need a break.  I'm looking forward to the landscapes, the chosen interactions, the buffer from the city noise, and the sun. 

i've been kind of in a funk energetically and though i'm really stoked about my trip, it wears me out to pack.  I'm such a hobbit!!  The home front is good, but requires a lot of my time and energy, and right now, I don't want to do any of it. 

My intention for this trip is to gain the clarity the season and freedom provides.  I'm not running from anything...in fact i'm stepping into this thing called life.  

I expect it to be enlightening, and inspiring.  I promise to share bits and pieces when I return.